If you're reading this and wondering if it's about you, chances are it might be.
It's all a bit confusing.
As a girl, I think many of us go through this. I feel unsure and don't know if you like me or not. I'm trying to figure out if you want to hang out with me or not. I'm trying to understand your intentions, but it's like I can't get a clear answer from you—do you like me or not?
Back in high school, things were clearer. We saw each other every day, so it was easy to know who liked whom. Our friendships were straightforward because we talked all the time in person and online. But college changed things. Girls became harder to read, and I'm left questioning whether your actions match your words or if your texts are just being polite. So, I realised I rather be alone than be with girls who are just as confused as me.
In high school, it was simpler to gauge where friendships stood because we were constantly in each other's presence. However, in college life, everything felt more uncertain. Communication isn't as frequent or straightforward, and I find myself overanalysing every interaction. It was challenging to understand if there was genuine interest or just casual politeness in your responses so, I rather be alone.
When I got to university, it was easier to make friends. We had common interests and saw each other every day, just like in high school. I found my friends quickly and feel lucky to have them.
Work friendships are different though. At work, some people are great friends, but others can be tricky. Some colleagues might not be trustworthy or might be friendly just for their own benefit, which can be confusing.
For me, making friends with some girls at work has been hard. Sometimes, they don't seem to try, or they see me as competition, or they are nice just to get something from me. It's hard to know how to act.
Like, how else am I meant to act or be around you?
Storytime, so, there was this girl who initially seemed interested in being friends. We communicated regularly, talked about hanging out, and even made plans. But every time the day came, there was always an excuse—even when she was the one who made the plans in the first place. It's frustrating when it happens once, but three times in a row. It's testing my patience.
I'm exhausted from trying to figure out if you like me, and honestly, I don't have the time for it anymore and you shouldn't have to spend so much energy on it either. If you find yourself in a similar situation, think about whether it's worth the trouble. Sometimes, it's best to move on and focus on easier, more genuine friendships.
Thats all.
Nish xo
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